Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts

Friday, May 23, 2014

The Box by: Karen Cone

I went on a spiritual retreat with a group of women who have experienced pain, betrayal and loss. We are the fellowship of the broken.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

In this group I have watched the Father save those who are crushed in spirit. I have seen women who had isolated themselves take the risk of opening up to others. I have seen women trade their ashes for beauty. I have seen miracles. It is amazing and beautiful every single time.

Here is the beginning of one such story:

Holly spills over with life and energy. She is a full-throttle kind of girl.

At this time in her life, Holly is enduring intense emotions over the betrayal that she has experienced in her marriage. She is up, and she is down. She is hopeful, discourage, angry, and tender. Life is a roller coaster of feelings.

At one point during the retreat, we were to decorate a small, plain wooden box. We were given a number of craft items to help us create a box that would represent who we are, body and soul. Holly, whose strong suit is not arts and crafts, was trying her best to make her box beautiful.

Unfortunately, there was an accident. Holly mistook the white paint for the mod-podge. That means that instead of gluing on her designs and making them look shiny like a coat of mod-podge would do, she completely covered her work with white paint.

Her box was ruined.

Discouraged, Holly tossed the ruined box into the garbage and got another plain box. There was no time to start over, so Holly simply slapped some stickers onto the new box and called it done.

Someone, who had watched Holly toss her first box in the trash, went and rescued it. This woman redesigned, repainted, and remade the box into an amazing work of art. And as a finishing touch, this verse across the front: He Makes All Things New.

I didn’t know any of this, I only knew that Holly had said she was awful at this box making stuff. So when I saw the beautifully decorated box she was holding during worship, I said, "I think you are lying about not being very good at this crafty stuff! Your box is beautiful."

That's when I saw she was crying. Tears rolling down her cheeks, Holly told me how someone had redeemed her solid white mess up from the  heap, and produced the lovely new creation she now held.

My tears started flowing, as well. I was overwhelmed by God's tender mercies and care for my friend. He had seen her struggle, her pain, and her need. And He had called on one of the members of the body to give a gift of hope.

That anonymous person was obedient to the call. Little did she know that her simple act of repairing the rejected box would become known to every lady there or that this small act would resonate deeply within our souls.

Our own lives had looked like they belonged on the trash heap. Broken, messed up, imperfect. But what we viewed as rubbish was still valued by the Father. He didn't turn His back to us. Rather, He lovingly looked down and rescued what seemed ruined and beyond repair.

And now we are God's treasure. We are learning to cling tightly to Him, come what may. He is making us new.



Karen loves to write and lead women's support group.  She is learning to walk in God's grace day to day as well as learning to extend that grace to others.  You can follow her blog at karencone.org

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Pursue Peace with the Windshield Wipers of Obedience by @JenniferOWhite



Angry thoughts can storm our mind. Marriage, work, extended family; every relationship needs mind and heart windshield wipers. If only all of our encounters could be friendly and encouraging. But we never know when a clap of emotional thunder will have us on edge.

 
photo credit: Seth Anderson

You and I have several options when we find ourselves in a whirlwind of opinions, egos and self-defense tactics. God is faithful to direct your path to bring the peace He intends for all involved. He may lead you to confront the storm head on. He may invite me to keep my distance. Regardless of His appointed next step with the other person, He wants both of us to be very careful to guard our hearts.

Soak Your Soul in these Truths:

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23 NLT

For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. Matthew 15:19 NLT

And "don't sin by letting anger control you." Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry, Ephesians 4:26 NLT

Windshield Wipers & Storms  

Today we drive through storms to get where we want to go and we use our windshield wipers to see our way through the storm.
Have you practiced using the tools of confession and forgiveness to see through the emotions that cloud your heart? As windshield wipers cast down the pouring rain, confessing our sin and asking for forgiveness casts down the imaginations designed to separate us from God.



Occasionally, I struggle with thoughts that do not honor my husband. It’s not just me is it?  I lose sight of his value because I’m focused on my expectations. It’s much easier to point out his faults and grumble in my spirit than to see my own.
Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:10

Ideas like this contaminated our relationship once before. Not this time! I had learned the hard way that peace comes from a life of obedience.

And this righteousness will bring peace. Yes, it will bring quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17

I began to practice confessing to God each thought as it came up. Then I would ask for God’s forgiveness.  My side of the conversation with God would go something like this:

“God, I know that thought about David did not come from you. Please forgive me for entertaining that idea. I forgive myself and I forgive David for _________.”

This might take hours of repetition as I battle my own emotions and self-centered desires. But the act of obedience honors God and keeps the window of my heart clean.

The next time you find yourself rehearsing the faults of others remember to turn on the windshield wipers of your mind. Choose to obey God’s instructions to:
·       honor others
·       confess the sin
·       ask for God’s forgiveness
·       and forgive the other person.
God’s perspective is there to get you through the storm and on to victory – His version of victory! Keep wiping away the temptation to focus on people instead of God.
Peace is for you and for me. It is a gift of salvation we could be easily miss if we exalt our own emotions higher than God’s ways.

May we embrace the peace-filled life on earth Jesus bought for us with his death and resurrection.



Jennifer O. White
Author of Prayers for New Brides: Putting on the Armor After the Wedding Dress (January 2015)