When Your Way of Practicing Christianity Gets "ALL SHOOK UP"- by @ShelleyHendrix

Free to be ME 

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20 TNIV

For most of my life I seemed to be doing quite well in my Christian life and journey, even through some really tough bumps in the road. I didn’t realize how much or how often I was relying on my own strength, my own wisdom, or my own abilities to get through tough times. 

I prayed. 

I read my Bible. 

I attended and volunteered at my church. 

I was very good at “doing.” 

I thought that since it was my responsibility to “die to self,” and “live for Christ,” that I was doing my utmost to make that happen with utmost sincerity. 

Can I be completely honest? Without truly realizing this about myself, the truth was that I wanted to impress God with how much I could love Him and how good I could make Him look to others—I thought this was the way He wanted me to live my life. 

But there was a problem with this way of living: Striving with all my might to be as close to perfect as humanly possible, to check off "the list," to perform well enough for God, others, & even myself, kept my relationships completely guarded. I wore a different mask for different people and different settings--but I wasn't even aware of it! Allowing God to remove the masks, one by one, started out with unrelenting pain. Actually, my willingness to even allow this was as a result of God showing me how I COULD NOT handle life on my own, nor did He ever expect me to even attempt to do this. 

It was torturous to my mind and emotions that had been stuck in the same patterns for so long. Those masks are usually glued on tightly enough that we don't even see them in the mirror or feel them hiding our faces, and we have NO clue how much they are impacting our own vision and perception of the world and others, much like the masks we don for costume parties . I thought I was the most sincere and ‘real’ person I knew. For most of us who have learned this way of living—especially as Believers in Jesus—it can be the shock of our lives to find out we aren’t as “authentic” as we’ve perceived ourselves to be. 

Okay, with this in mind, take a DEEP BREATH with me here… “Until the pain is greater than the payoff, there will be no change.”

God loved me enough to confront me with truth. Learning to trust His skillful hands to do the kind of surgery only He can do, opened my life up in countless ways and has given me opportunities to be truly known...and deeply loved. To be free—indeed! 

The masks may have looked more appealing than the real me, but it definitely wasn’t worth the relational isolation it required to maintain. Knowing Christ intimately, and knowing Christ IN Shelley has made every single ounce of discomfort and pain MORE than worth it. 

His Grace still amazes me! 
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"All Shook UP" is the theme of this year's AWAKEN 1-Day Conference hosted by Church 4 Chicks on November 8. Deadline to register is October 31st and you can do that here on the blog (right hand column) or www.church4chicks.ticketbud.com ~ We would love to see you there!

 Shelley Hendrix is the founder of Church 4 Chicks and the brand new Heart Smart- Counseling, Coaching and Consulting practice with her best friend and husband, Stephen Hendrix. 

You can find Shelley's website, social media links and more at www.ShelleyHendrix.com but you'll typically find her sipping coffee, taking pics of sunrises and sunsets in her new coastal hometown or wrestling with her crazy Beaglador named Annie. 

Meet Valorie Burton ~ Featured Speaker at #AWAKEN1Day 2014!

Valorie Burton is an amazing woman who not only exemplifies Church 4 Chicks mission of helping women live with purpose without the pressure, but she has also navigated through the twists and turns of life in order to find her God-given purpose. She is a best selling author, speaker and life coach who is dedicated to helping women overcome the areas of their lives in which they feel lost and stuck. Valorie is the founder of The Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute, which has allowed her to serve clients in over 40 states and ten countries as an Certified Personal and Executive Coach. Essentially, she helps people to make major life changes, become stronger leaders, speak up with confidence and gain positive tools that can be used to navigate the life’s disappointments and setbacks. In other words, she wants to help people see their lives as better and not bitter.

Valorie is a regularly featured on the TODAY Show, along with appearances on the Dr. Oz Show and she has co-hosted two national television programs, The Potters Hands with T.D. Jakes and Aspiring Women. She has also written for Oprah Magazine, Essence, Ebony, Women’s Day and many others. Valorie Burton can best be summarized by Coca Cola’s corporate testimony:

“When Valorie Burton lit up the stage at the 2013 Women’s Foodservice Forum Conference in Orlando, we knew we had to have her.  Back at the World Headquarters of The Coca-Cola Company, our women’s business resource group, women’s LINC, was hard at work planning the “Now is Your Time” conference for 500 women in Atlanta and members in over 20 countries.  Lucky for us, Valorie was available and joined us as the workshop lead for a session on, “How to Bring out the Best in Yourself and Others.”  Well, she certainly brought out the best in her audience – our members raved about Valorie and she earned top scores in our post-conference survey.  Of course, she’s a great speaker with a strong message that prompts her listeners to go and do something; but it’s the intangibles that we loved.  Valorie is a great storyteller, funny, and she knows how to move a crowd!  Do your team a favor…call her.”

Tanika S. Cabral Coca-Cola women’s LINC Vice President, Engagement

Church 4 Chicks is not only excited to have Valorie speaking at the AWAKEN 1 Day Conference, but we are honored to have her share her heart, her wisdom and her expertise regarding our reactions when our world is “all shook up!”

Got Tix?  www.Church4Chicks.ticketbud.com for tickets or simply use the option on the right hand column of the blog -- and hurry! Registration deadline is October 31!