I’m preaching to myself when I say that . I err on the side of saying “ ” when the truth is, life has its share of challenges. The good news is that when we open up and allow ourselves to be vulnerable — when we share what’s going on — we invest in the health of our friendships, our families, and ourselves.
How do we do it? How do we find time to cultivate relationships to the point that we are willing — and able — to share the good, bad, and the ugly? How do we take a deep breath and step into the kind of vulnerability that leads to health and healing?
2. If we really want to start getting real, we need to stop adding sheen. We all that nobody’s perfect — but that doesn’t stop us from trying to be perfect, anyway. We all have cracks in our pavement, and trying to cover them up is a cheap fix. But when we’re willing to be transparent, others see that. And it’s encouraging. It’s refreshing. It’s contagious. Let’s put away our masks and stop the charade of perfection. Let’s be women who acknowledge that we don’t have it all together — and that’s more than okay.
3. Open yourself up to the right person. Who is in your life that you can trust? Who can you confide in without opening yourself up to unnecessary judgment? Who is there to listen and to guide — to offer wisdom, not just advice? Who will open her arms when you need it and cry with you when words just don’t seem to be enough? When I am struggling with something related to adoption, I seek counsel with a few women I know who have been in (or are in) the trenches themselves. When I was at my wit’s end with nursing, I turned to a few ladies I know who have been there, done that. It is so comforting to fall back into the arms of someone who has gone what you’ve gone through.
4. We need to remember catch our sisters when they’re falling, too. And to have grace and compassion when someone makes herself vulnerable. That means listening without interruptions. Keeping things confidential. Committing to come alongside her and enter into what she’s going through. Just being there. And sometimes it’s awkward. And sometimes it’s exhausting to share others’ burdens. It’s easier to grab coffee and discuss the finer points of French press vs. pour-over, but when you dig deeper, you’re planting a relationship that really bloom into something beautiful.
5. says that when two believers come together, God is right there among us. God knows our burdens, our anxieties, our worries, our stresses, and our fears. All of it. And He asks us to cast it on him. The sees our pain and just as we enter in one another’s pain, he enters into it with us. How amazing that He sees us for the beautiful new creations that we are in Christ, not the frazzled failures that we sometimes feel like. There is rest for the weary, and when we spend time with others and with God, we begin to feel that renewal.
is a full-time journalist turned work-at-home mom. She lives in Orange City, Iowa, where she’s married to a shaggy-haired pastor and chases around two wild + crazy boys: Joseph and Asher. When she’s not changing diapers or sweeping Cheerios, she’s encouraging women to find their worth at ManySparrows.me. She sips strong coffee, is passionate about adoption, and believes there's beauty in the broken.