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Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Do Not Fear ~ Short Vlog by Cherie Zack with @ImperfectWives

As the New Year approaches, so does the unknown. We at C4C trust that Cherie's encouragement tdday to not be afraid will help you launch into 2014 with bold confidence in your Creator, Savior, "Sustainer", Provider, and FRIEND. Happy New Year!
 

Cherie L. Zack
District Director of Women's Ministries | South Carolina District Council of the Assemblies of God

"For I have redeemed you: by name; you are mine."  -Isaiah 43:1

Join me here at The Imperfect Wives: www.TheImperfectWives.org

Monday, August 5, 2013

Dinner in an Oasis by Lucille Zimmerman @LucilleZ


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Dinner in an Oasis 

ByLucille Zimmerman 

Are there people you would love to meet? People you especially admire and look up to? People that would make you lightheaded and giddy, especially if you were to sit down and have dinner together? 

I can think of several living and dead. People like Rich Mullins, Tyler Perry, Greta Van Susteren.  

The other day I was reading about Jesus when He was on His way to Jerusalem. He was nearing the end of His three year ministry. He was hot, dusty, and weary. 

He knew death was awaiting Him when he arrived. 

Crowds were closing in so thickly He could hardly walk. Pharisees were testing Him. Sick and lame people were begging Him for healing. 

They were near a town called Jericho, only 23 miles from Jerusalem. It’s the oldest city and it’s an oasis. 

I’ve been to Jericho twice. All around is desert, but Jericho sits among streams, waterfalls, and palm trees. It’s a lush, green respite in a desolate area.
Can you picture it? 

It was in this town that something remarkable happened. A short little thug named Zacchaeus ran ahead of the crowd and scrambled up a tree so that he could get a glimpse of Jesus.
You might be tempted to think of him as a “wee little man in a Sycamore tree,” but he was the worst of the worst. You see Rome exacted a tax from the Jews, and the Jewish countrymen who agreed to bilk money from their own people for Rome, also padded their own pockets. He was a thug! 

Zacchaeus must have been especially hated because he was the CHIEF tax collector. Think of someone like a drug lord, a pimp, or crime boss.
There are so many stunning things that happened there. As soon as Jesus arrived in the cool, wet oasis:

     Jesus pointed up to the criminal in the tree and hollered, “Hey Zacchaeus, dinner’s at your house tonight!

     Zaccheaus had heard so much about Jesus he stopped everything to get a gander. Apparently these stories about Jesus were more tantalizing to him than wealth.

     Zaccheaus rushed home to get dinner ready. In his house, we read that he stood up and announced he would give half of his possessions to the poor and he would pay anything he had extorted from the people “four times over.” (Luke 19:8) In essence, by quoting the Torah (Exodus 22:1), he was saying, “Dude, I’m such a thief!” 

But that’s what Jesus does when you encounter Him. He makes you want to bow low, confess your junk, and be best friends. 

Want to hear something really cool? That winsome Jesus wants to have dinner at your house too! 

And there is nothing you have to do? You might not be as bad as Zacchaeus, but you’re no saint. 

The cool thing is you don’t have to be. 

It would be like Tyler, Rich, or Greta calling me up and saying, “Hey Lucille, we’re coming over.”

You don’t have to clean yourself or the house up. 

Just enjoy the company.

Lucille Zimmerman is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Littleton, CO and an affiliate faculty professor at Colorado Christian University.

She is also the author of 
Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World. Through practical ideas and relatable anecdotes, readers can better understand their strengths and their passions—and address some of the underlying struggles or hurts that make them want to keep busy or minister to others to the detriment of themselves. Renewed can help nurture those areas of women’s lives to use them better for work, family, and service. It gives readers permission to examine where they spend their energy and time, and learn to set limits and listen to “that inner voice."

Friday, March 1, 2013

4 Lies Women Tell Themselves


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Four Lies Women Tell Themselves

ByLucille Zimmerman

Lie #1: It’s selfish to put yourself on the list.  Self-care is not selfish. Self-care is about taking control of your own health and happiness. By being in control you stay healthy and put yourself in charge of making sure you have a good quality of life. Taking good care of yourself means the people in your life receive the best of you rather than what is left of you. When Jesus told people to love their neighbor as themselves, he was presupposing that people would love themselves. If we don’t love ourselves, we are violating that commandment just the same as when we don’t love others. Alternately, if we only care for ourselves without caring for others, that would be selfish. But loving ourselves is good and godly.

Lie #2: It’s unchristian to set boundaries.  I used to think people who had clear boundaries were mean and nasty, and people who accommodated everybody else's whim were Godly. People with healthy boundaries have developed an identity separate and distinct from others. Their lives have a nice balance; they are connected with people, not enmeshed with them. Imagine a picket fence with a gate: You get to decide who you want to come into your life and how far they come in. For instance, you may want to crack open the gate by limiting someone to a ten-minute phone call instead of inviting her over to your house. There may be a family member you want to honor, but his or her behaviors may be so toxic you must limit the relationship to a birthday card. Boundaries are flexible, so they can change. The most important thing to understand is that you are the gatekeeper controlling your life and space.

Lie #3: You can’t show people your flaws; you must be perfect. When I studied group counseling, I learned a really interesting concept: If there is a group of people, and one person decides to take a risk in sharing a vulnerable piece of her story, she instantly becomes the most popular member of the group. Why? It’s a concept called “universality”: Every person in a group has traits or experiences or flaws or past mistakes that he or she wants to hide. When we see another take a bold risk and be accepted, we wish we had the guts to be that authentic. Of course, this concept could be taken to an extreme. It would not be prudent for a member to go into a group and reveal everything too quickly without getting to know the others. But a gentle unveiling of a vulnerable truth by one brave soul can offer the ripple effect of relief and acceptance to others.

Lie #4: You must stick every person’s opinion of you on yourself. In situations where someone reacts negatively towards me, I’ve learned to ask the question, “What is the person telling you about himself?” All of our actions and words are a reflection of our past experiences. They are evidence of the lens through which we see the world. When people blow up or overreact, it usually isn’t about what we did wrong or about how bad that person is hurting or about what dots they are connecting from their own histories. The more we back off and see a bigger picture, the more we stop allowing others to direct our lives.

Lucille Zimmerman’s book, Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World releases TODAY< March 1st.
Connect with Lucille on her website 
at
www.lucillezimmerman.com 

Monday, February 18, 2013

Vision



Photo by Amelia Grace Photography

Vision


By  Cheryl Laurenza

If people can't see what God is doing,they stumble all over themselves;But when they attend to what he reveals,they are most blessed. Proverbs 29:18 (The Message)



                                                                                       
Thinking about Vision today. I like this transliteration for where I am at and wonder how many of us can relate? Am I stumbling in the dark or casting off restraint? Have my circumstances allowed me to lose focus, become embittered, confused, angry, or perhaps disappointed and disengaged? I know I have to seek hard after His vision or I will continue to fumble like a blind quarterback, or actually in our roles, like a fullback. Praying we can break though the camouflage of all the above and press on toward the end zone. We have the 'Playbook' and we have the best leader and team, but we must play with the end game in mind. If we focus on the opposition, and not the Vision, we are done before we start; I can assure you that from a lot of personal experience. What does God have for you to walk into? What are the dreams and the desires of your heart that you are afraid to move towards? It's all about the Vision. Praying you will have eyes to see and ears to hear, as well as the courage to step out.


Blessings friends,


Cheryl Laurenza, MA, LPC, NCC  
BCPCC, CPCS, ACS
The Refuge Counseling Center
www.refugecounselingcenter.org