Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts

Friday, May 24, 2013

Worth and Significance by Melissa Haas @RestoreLifeUs

Photo by Melissa Hass

Worth and Significance

byMelissa Haas

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, in Our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.  Genesis 1:26-27, NIV 

I am a person of great worth and significance, for I am created in the image of God for His glory.   



Who were we modeled after?  The Hebrew word used here for “image” only appears in the creation account and a couple of other places in Genesis. It comes from a root word meaning “to shade,” and in this usage means a “resemblance.” When the Bible says we were created in the image and likeness of God, it means that God made us to resemble Himself.   

You resemble your Father. 

But sin wrecked all that, didn’t it?  Actually, sin just made us blind to who we were created to be—the image bearers of God. We could not see His image in us or our need for Him. Instead we sought after other images to give us meaning and purpose and definition.  

It reminds me of one of my kids’ favorite movies—The Lion King. In the movie, Scar, the evil brother of the lion king Mufasa, plots to kill him and Simba, the new heir to the throne, so that he can become the lion king. Scar tells Simba that his father wants to show him something in the valley. Meanwhile, Scar’s cronies, the evil hyenas, cause a herd of wildebeest to begin stampeding towards the valley where Simba is anxiously waiting for the promised surprised. 

Mufasa, watching from afar, sees the herd on the move. Scar runs up to tell him that Simba is in danger, and Mufasa races to save his son. He succeeds, but as he jumps to save himself from the hooves of the wildebeests, Scar pushes him off the cliff, and Mufasa dies. 

Simba, seeing his father fall, rushes to his side, trying to rouse him. The evil Scar comes to Simba then and implies that it is all his fault. “The truth is, Simba,” Scar says to the cub, “Mufasa’s dead because of you.” Simba believes him and faced with the guilt of causing his father’s death, and at the suggestion of Scar, he runs away.   

Simba nearly dies in the desert, but a couple of unlikely friends, Timon and Pumbaa find him and save his life. Timon is a meercat, and Pumbaa is a warthog. They teach Simba a new life philosophy—a “no worries, no problems” lifestyle that forgets the past and lives with no concern for anyone but yourself. Simba is a lion, but he forgets who he is. He eats bugs and grubs just like Timon and Pumbaa and lives a carefree life--until his past, in the form of a childhood friend named Nala, bumps into him one day.  

Disturbed and guilt-ridden again, Simba goes out into a field and screams at the sky, “You said you would always be with me, but you aren’t! Your dead, and it’s all my fault!”  

In the distance Simba sees a baboon coming toward him. The baboon, named Rafiki, tells Simba that his father isn’t dead, that he will show Simba where he is. Simba follows Rafiki through the jungle and ends up at a pool of water. He sees his reflection and angrily turns to Rafiki, saying, “That’s not my father; it’s only my reflection.”  

Rafiki replies, “Look harder . . . You see, he lives in you.”   

Something stirs the water. The image of Mufasa appears. Mufasa tells Simba that he has forgotten him. Simba denies it. Mufasa says, “You have forgotten who you are, and so have forgotten me.  Look inside yourself. You are more than what you’ve become.” As Mufasa’s image disappears in the sky, he says, “Remember you are my son—the child of the one true king. Remember….”   

The story ends with Simba returning to the Pride Lands to fight Scar and to assume his rightful place as the Lion King.  

No matter how long you deny it, no matter how you behave in an effort to forget a painful past, you will always bear the image of your Father. A self-centered and foolish lifestyle built on deception (Satan’s lies) may prevent you from living out your true identity, and the Father sees all of this.  But God never washes His hands of you and says, “That’s it. I’m writing her off. I can’t stand to look at her anymore.” Instead He brings you to a place where you must face who you have become so that you will remember who He created you to be.  

The whole reason Jesus came in the likeness of man was so that we could again see the image of God through Him. Jesus came as a man so that we could, by receiving Him, be transformed into His likeness—created anew for His glory (2 Corinthians 3:18).   

You resemble your Father, and you have great worth and significance because you were created by Him.    Dare to believe this truth with all of your heart.  Live as the daughter of the one true King

Melissa Haas currently serves as the Director of Restoration Groups for HopeQuest, a ministry group in Woodstock, Georgia, which helps people struggling with life-dominating issues.  Melissa began her service in ministry in 1993 as an international missionary to Kenya, East Africa, where she and her husband Troy worked as church planters among the Turkana people.  When a significant marital crisis ended their missionary service, Melissa and Troy began a journey of healing and restoration that now serves as the foundation of their ministry to others.  Passionate about spiritual community, healthy marriages, and intimacy with God, Melissa regularly facilitates small groups and teaches and speaks on these topics in order to help the Body of Christ grow relationally with God and each other.  Melissa and Troy and their three children reside in Woodstock, Georgia.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Q and A from friend Me? Conference 3/16/2013


Someone at the Friend Me? Conference asked the counseling panel this question: 

"My brother asked me to lie to a friend. If he is a believer, why ask me to lie?" 

I think there may be two parts to your question: 

1.  If my brother is a believer, why does he sin and want me to sin? 

Just because your brother is a Christian, it doesn't mean he is perfect. 

Before we were Christians we were spring-loaded to the sin position. It was impossible not to sin. Sure we could do “good” things, but our motives are probably self-centered. In 1 John 1: 8 "If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us." Though we strive for perfection (Matthew 5:48) our old nature still exists. If you read Romans 7, you will see that Paul struggled with his sin nature, but he knew that one day he would be victorious.  

When we become believers we have the Holy Spirit living in us. For the first time we have the power not to sin. However, but are still human. Because of the Fall, we live in a broken world. We are still capable of ignoring the Holy Spirit's power.  

2. I think a second part of your question might be, “Is it okay to tell my brother I won’t lie for him?” 

Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself? Do you feel like he has more influence over you than he should? Do you feel like there will be a price to pay if you don't lie?  

If you struggle with these questions you might want to read the book, Boundaries by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend. Or you may want to see a counselor to help you work on these struggles.
Lucille Zimmerman is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Littleton, CO and an affiliate faculty professor at Colorado Christian University. 
She is also the author of Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World. Through practical ideas and relatable anecdotes, readers can better understand their strengths and their passions—and address some of the underlying struggles or hurts that make them want to keep busy or minister to others to the detriment of themselves. Renewed can help nurture those areas of women’s lives to use them better for work, family, and service. It gives readers permission to examine where they spend their energy and time, and learn to set limits and listen to “that inner voice."

 

 

Monday, March 25, 2013

Love, Respect, and Amazing Grace! by @ShelleyHendrix #ReigningGraceSeries

Love, Respect, and Amazing Grace! 

by Shelley Hendrix, Author and Founder of Church 4 Chicks

For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.2 Chronicles 16:9a NKJV


They say that women yearn for love and men long for respect. I can see this, and won't argue it, but I think we all want both, don't you? I know I do.

I've come to realize that love and respect don't necessarily come as a package deal, though. You can respect someone you don't love and love someone without necessarily feeling any admiration for them. (There's a difference between showing respect, as in honoring someone based on who you are, and respecting them, as in admiring them for what they've done.)

With me so far?

This has been on my mind all day because just this morning I had to deal with a challenging interaction with someone I greatly love, but because of what he/she chose to do with this situation, my respect for them was challenged. My love didn't change one iota, but my ability to feel admiration, based on their behavior did. I came away from that conversation with a couple of thoughts:

1) Because of grace, God loves us no matter what we do or how we treat Him.
2) Because of grace, God will always show honor/respect to us no matter how we behave or how we treat Him;
3) Because of grace, God's love won't change; his ability to be honorable in all His dealings with us won't change; but that doesn't mean He 'respects' what we choose to do or how we choose to behave.

I believe that feeling respect for someone is intimately connected with our ability to trust that person.

The more you trust someone's integrity, honor, trustworthiness, the higher the respect factor. Am I right?

I believe this is why God chooses to use some folks in greater proportion to their abilities than others: not because He loves them more, nor because He chooses favorites, but because some people have chosen to be more trustworthy, more respectable, than others. Some can be trusted to drive their Father's car without supervision while the other child can't...at least not yet.

Take David, in the Old Testament, as an example. As he proved his trustworthiness to his earthly father, his Heavenly Father began to promote him again and again. As David proved himself trustworthy to his earthly authority (King Saul for example), God began to elevate his earthly influence over that of others who were seemingly so much more capable and suited for the roles David filled.

I don't know about you, but I can say for myself, that when the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, searching for a heart that is loyal to His, I want His eyes to land on me! If God is looking for people, not only to love, but to show Himself strong for, my desire is that He would do this in my life.

Grace means His love is always constant. I can't make Him love me anymore than he infinitely does already. Nor can I do anything that would cause Him to love me any less.

This awareness frees my heart to obey Him in loyal love.

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What about you?



  • How do you see Grace's role in response to trustworthiness and respectability?