Showing posts with label balancing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label balancing. Show all posts

Friday, June 21, 2013

Divine Order - A Guest Post by @Eileen Koff



Divine Order 
By
Eileen Koff 

Remember 9/11? Before that infamous day I used to spend a lot of time explaining to people what it is that I do, as a certified professional organizer. I would get questions like, what group do I organize, or am I part of some labor union? Needless to say in 2013 I do a lot less explaining. Right after 9/11 a deluge of media began to take notice of this industry.  Our society decided that since we could no longer control outside forces, we could at least find comfort in our own environments. TV shows like “Clean Sweep” and “Mission Organization” began educating the public that the world needs professional organizers. Pick up any women’s magazine, and on the front cover “Get Organized” is sure to attract attention. 

Getting organized is multifaceted. Our society understands the need for productivity and goal-oriented tasks to help reach a higher level of productivity and efficiency. With multitasking mania and time tyranny, we are no better off today than we were in 2001 when it comes to obtaining that higher level of organized bliss. 

Here’s a story about Heinrich to illustrate this point: 

Heinrich, a 30 year-old single descendent of Austrian immigrants, was raised in the predominantly German community of New Braunsfels, Texas by his parents Helmut and Eva. Heinrich attended the University of Texas for two years, before dropping out to pursue his dream of establishing an Austrian bakery in New York City.  He spent three years in Vienna training with the strudel-master Joachim, before returning to America and settling in Coram, New York, where he was employed by the local bakery. 

For generations, Heinrich’s family were quintessential clippers, saving newspapers clippings of every newsworthy event, from the end of World War II, to man’s first landing on the moon, to more recently the events surrounding 9/11.  In addition to news-clippings, Heinrich’s mother instilled in him the habit of collecting supermarket coupons, magazine rebate promotions, movie reviews, and baking recipes. When his father Helmut died, his mother Eva joined him in Coram, where they shared his two-bedroom apartment.  Eva’s relentless clipping, combined with Heinrich’s fear of upsetting his mother ingrained since his early youth, led to a situation where his kitchen had become completely un-manageable. Shortly after his mother’s death, a mutual friend introduced me to Heinrich, and as a professional organizer, I immediately saw the challenge before me.  

As a result of the clipping habit, that he felt compelled to continue, Heinrich had lost all of the space in his kitchen to bake. Clippings were everywhere, on the counter, in the drawers, even in the baking bowls and in the pot rack under the oven.  No longer finding pleasure in clipping, and sending these clippings to other family members, he had lost life balance and thus his clipping habit had overwhelmed everything else.    

Getting him organized so that he had the proper space and equipment to enable him to bake and clip harmoniously was quite a daunting task.   Setting up a new filing system in an out of the way corner of the kitchen was essential. Along side the filing cabinet, we installed a tools center that included supplies (scissors, stamps envelopes, pens etc), which would enable Heinrich to clip and address for mailing immediately the clippings. These strategies for organizing these new spaces had a dramatic effect.  These efforts, combined with his mother’s passing, allowed Heinrich to start fresh.  Heinrich realized that his mother had kept the family connected by her clipping hobby, to the now widespread families living in Austria, Germany, Texas and NY.  The positive aspects of keeping the family connected had driven Heinrich to continue the hobby, resulting in his inability to focus on achieving his baking dreams.  

With his mother’s passing, and his realization that he could remain connected as effectively with the rest of the family via cell phones and email, combined with the more effective space in his newly organized kitchen, Heinrich returned to his love of baking. Now that the space allowed him to breath once again, he felt inspired to invent recipes, and to begin a serious path toward the bakery dreams, which by the way, he finally opened in 2004. 

The world understands the value of organization, but as Christians, there are a myriad of other reason an orderly life is essential. Our God IS orderly. Ever read the design for the building of the first temple? The details are down to the nails.  There are many reasons God tells us that an orderly lifestyle will not only make your life more productive, but His purpose and design for YOU becomes clear when all things are in order. 

Have I piqued your interest? In my next blog I’ll begin to outline the reasons why living an orderly life is essential to know God’s daily purpose for YOU!


 Eileen Koff CPO®
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Organizing is NOT about the stuff....it's about priorities. It's living your BEST life now, preserving your memories, and creating space for your future.



Wednesday, June 5, 2013

When The Cape Doesn't Fit ~ Guest Post by Jill Hart @CWAHM

I am so thrilled to have Jill Hart sharing with us today! I met her through Facebook when she came across a copy of my newest book and asked if I'd be interested in being a guest on her radio program with her co-host, Lori Twichell. It was definitely a "God-connection" as our lives intersected and a friendship was born. I know that so many of us can relate to Jill's story as most of us have tried and tried to find a cape that fits!

~Warmly,
Shelley
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Photo from JillHart.com


When The Cape Doesn’t Fit 

ByJill Hart 

When I first began working from home, I thought I could do it all. Take care of our home, run a business and have time left over to read a good book every now and again. At first, things went pretty smoothly and it felt like the invisible superwoman cape that other women seem to wear was beginning to fit me, too.
A year later our daughter was born and my new reality began to take shape. I was still trying to wear my cape, but it was now oftentimes wrinkled and had a few spit-up stains. But still, I pushed forward – surely I could add motherhood to my list of accomplishments without needing help . . . right?
Somehow I had gotten it into my head that since it was my decision to leave the workforce, my decision to start a business, and my decision to do it all at once; it was necessary that I put forth the hard work and do it all. Without help. See, in my mind none of the other women that I knew seemed to need help. They flitted around me crafting and sewing and running businesses and looking like they had it all together.
Thankfully, God knows what I need much better than I do.
When my daughter was around eight months old, I began getting fevers. I would have the fever for a few hours each day in the late afternoon. They zapped me of all energy and left me completely exhausted. I went to doctor after doctor and they tested me for everything from mono to the West Nile virus, but every test came back negative.  No one could give me a diagnosis, nor could they decide how to treat my random fevers.
After struggling through each day for several weeks, my parents offered to take our daughter for a few days to give me a chance to rest and try to build my strength back up. It was so hard to let go of my baby and allow them to care for her for a few days. I felt like a failure even though the illness was nothing that I had chosen. My superwoman cape was long forgotten, stuffed in the back of a drawer in my brain. I certainly didn’t deserve to wear it.
As the months went by, the fevers eventually faded. I was able to be up and around, caring for my daughter. My parents still came to town often to help me keep up with housework, as they had during much of my illness. My business was still growing little by little and as I felt better, I grew more and more excited about working on new things to add to it.
I learned so much during that time in my life – how to begin letting go of my children, that they WILL be okay without me around 24/7. I learned that I could trust my husband to care for me during sickness – we had only been married for about two years and this was one of the first major hurdles that we had faced together.  I was reminded that life is short and we aren’t promised tomorrow.
I also learned that it was okay to need help once in a while. No matter how hard I try, I simply can’t do it all. My life is richer because of the family and friends that God has given me. I’m a stronger person because of the people who surround me with their love and support. My attitude has become one of thankfulness instead of self-loathing – thankful for the people in my life, thankful for a new chance at life each morning I wake.
The doctors never did figure out what had caused the fevers, but then in 2008 (7 years later) I was diagnosed with Grave’s Disease and my then-doctor suspects that the fevers all those years ago were the beginnings of my thyroid issues. I still struggle with the symptoms from my Grave’s Disease and there are times that I need more help than others.
And that superwoman cape that I thought was my goal? Well, it really didn’t fit me that well anyway.

Jill Hart's entrepreneurial career began in her teens when she spent a summer working with her father who ran his own business. When he put her in charge of a Coke machine and allowed her to keep the profits, she saw the benefits of being her own boss.
She is the cape-less founder of Christian Work at Home Ministries and the co-author of So You Want To Be a Work-at-Home Mom. Jill has articles published in In Touch MagazineP31 Woman magazine and Focus on the Family’s Thriving Family, as well as across the web on sites like DrLaura.com. She speaks to audiences around the country about faith and business topics.


 Learn more about Jill at www.JillHart.com and connect with her on Facebook  and Twitter @cwahm.






Friday, March 15, 2013

Grace for Myself: Balancing the Responsibilities of Home and Family



Grace for Myself: 

Balancing the Responsibilities of Home and Family

By: Melissa Haas

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." 
2 Corinthians 12:9 ESV




The limitation of my humanity in managing my home is a reality I face every day.    As I drag myself out of bed each morning, walk past baskets of dirty laundry (currently there are five) and into a kitchen with dirty dishes in the sink from yesterday, I grab a cup of coffee, plop down in my chair, and breathe a prayer of gratitude--thankful for grace.

It’s taken a long time for me to cultivate that gracious response to myself.  Like many women, for most of my early adult life I was haunted by the voices in my head that said things like “godly women manage their homes better than you do” and “a good woman puts her needs and desires last.”  After all, the Proverbs 31 woman had boundless energy in spite of obvious sleep deprivation and the ability to manage all of her responsibilities successfully.   If she could do it back in the days before dishwashers and washing machines, I should be able to manage my home better than she did.

I vividly remember thinking to myself that I must just be missing something.  So I decided to attend a Bible study on the Proverbs 31 woman, hoping that I would get the tools I needed to finally be able to get my act together in running our home with efficiency and grace.   At the time my children were four, eighteen months, and three months old, and just getting all of us to church on time was a feat of amazing proportions.   (I usually did not succeed.)

Every week I would go, and every week I would come home with a renewed determination to do better in managing my responsibilities at home.  Inevitably, though, between nursing the baby and keeping my eighteen-month old from playing in the toilet and playing dolls with my four-year-old daughter, the care of my home would be neglected once again.   I began dreading the familiar feelings of inadequacy and shame I experienced every time I went to study the Bible.    My heart was heavy from failure.

One morning, as I was talking to God about it all, confessing my failure to manage my home well, I got the distinct impression that He was bored with our conversation.  “Are you listening to me, Father?” I asked. 

“Yes, daughter, I’m listening.  I’m just not very drawn to your heart right now.  You are so focused on you and your failures, you are missing the very thing I created you for—relationships.   Has it ever occurred to you that these household responsibilities you are so freaked out about have no eternal value?  What makes me smile are your relationships with Me and the ones I have given you to love well.”

“But what about the Proverbs 31 woman?   You are the One who gave her to us as an example.”

“I gave Myself as the example to follow, daughter.  I thought I set the record straight with Mary and Martha, but just in case you have forgotten, let Me say it clearly.  Your worth and our relationship are not based on how well you manage your home.  It is based on who I say you are and how much time you spend with Me.  Trust Me with your laundry and your dishes.  I can only give you the grace that you need when you choose to rest in your weakness.” 

And so I took another step on the journey of grace that day—grace for myself.  The laundry and dishes are not always done, but I love the ways He energizes me each day as I trust Him with my weakness. 

What weakness have you been complaining about?  

What’s His perspective?

Dare to trust Him with your humanity. You will find much grace for that.